Stop Doing These Things to Be Happier
You’ve probably seen those blogs that are entitled: Do These 10 Things to Lead a Happy Life or 25 Small Things That Will Make You Happy. They’re great and all – and they usually have some pretty sound advice, but there is another way to go.
What about if you were to STOP doing things that were making you unhappy? That would have the same effect. You would be happier.
Here are a few things that you may need to stop doing in order to lead a happier life.
- Stop Getting Involved in Drama: Everyone has a person in their life (sometimes more than one) who seems to attract drama – and then tries to bring you into it. Try to stay clear of the drama – even if it means staying clear of this particular person.
- Stop Settling: Do you find yourself settling for, well, just about everything? Perhaps you’re not working at your ideal job. Or, maybe you have a partner who only treats you “okay.” Whatever you’re settling for – it’s probably not making you happy. So, switch courses and stop settling. Go after it!
- Stop Saying Yes: Do you find yourself constantly saying, “Yes,” – even if you really don’t want to? Then start practicing the word, “No.” It can be hard at first – especially if you’re a people pleaser – but saying “No,” can be pretty powerful in helping you become a happier person.
- Stop Living in the Past: The past is great. And you probably had some great times that you like to reminisce about, but you can’t live there. Make sure you are living in the present and doing what you can to live a happy and fulfilling life now.
- Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: There’s a saying: Comparison is the thief of joy. And if you are constantly comparing yourself to others, you are going to lose all of the joy in your life. Everyone’s life is different, and you can not compare where you’re at now with where someone else is.
- Stop Criticizing Yourself: People are often quick to criticize themselves. But a good adage to remember is: If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself.
- Stop Putting Other People First: This one can be difficult to stop, but if you spend too much time putting other people first, you will find that eventually, your emotional, physical, and psychological well-being will suffer. It doesn’t mean you stop helping people; it just means you make sure to carve out time for yourself.
- Stop Focusing On “Could’ve, Would’ve, and Should’ve”: Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone. And it’s easy to look back at things you’ve done and say, “I should’ve….” So, don’t do it. Focusing on the mistakes is an energy drain you just don’t need. Fix what you can and move on.
- Stop Waiting to Be Motivated: What’s keeping you from going after what you want? Motivation? Motivation can be fleeting – so don’t wait for it to come. Start doing what you need or want to do to achieve happiness – even if it’s a grind.
- Stop Depending on Others to Make You Happy: You can’t depend on others to make you happy – only you can do that. Look for happiness within yourself and know that it does not necessarily need to come from the people surrounding you.
- Stop Focusing On What You Don’t Have: This is a big one. It’s easy to say, “I’d be so much happier if I had…” – but would you really? The constant focus on material things just leads you down a path to wanting more and more. Instead, focus on the things you already have and the good fortune you’ve experienced.
Happiness can be achieved by doing certain things for yourself. Or, you can STOP doing certain things and lead a happier life. Which of the things on this list do you need to stop doing to make it happen?